What are your lifelong achievement goals? What did you dream of as a child? Has that changed? Aspirations are those dreams that we conjure up throughout our lives. As children, it may have been a career goal of becoming a fireman, a ballerina, or the President. Then, we age and gain new responsibilities.
Our perspectives change, making new things take on more importance. Aspirations are not a one-and-done kind of dream. They evolve as you grow, and life throws some spitballs your way. Understanding how your long-term plans will change helps you understand that you are not failing if life takes a detour.
The 4 Stages of Aspirations
Life seems to run in stages – so do aspirations. Typically, you may find yourself in any one of these stages throughout your life:
- Unadulterated Optimism: This stage is more common in our youth when we don’t have the same fears and responsibilities as our older years. This is the stage to identify your weaknesses and build your knowledge and skills. You create a better opportunity for success when you are aware of what you don’t know, and you work to grow in wisdom. Since we don’t know any better, we can dream freely and pursue our dreams.
- Worldly Reality: Life does happen, and we get burdened with responsibilities. We start jobs, buy houses, and have families. This is part of life. Your aspirations will seem like they die at this stage, but they don’t. Instead, they are weighed down and go into hiding. You may find that you struggle to find a work-life balance so that you can continue working toward your dreams. This can feel daunting and sometimes depressing, I know, I’ve been there.
- Renewed Dreaming: As time goes by, our responsibilities lighten or shift, and we find ourselves willing to dream again. For some, this may result in a mid-life crisis. It is easy to become distracted. For all of us, it is the time to take a renewed look at our dreams and how we can refocus and refresh our outlook. Often, the result is a firm footing and a renewed perspective on what we want to do with our lives. Other times, these dreams can be so deep rooted it takes a coach or mentor to help you find them again. To explore, dream and then go after that dream.
- Realignment and New Momentum: After renewing our aspirations and shifting as needed, we get the desire to jump in with a sense of purpose. We may feel young again, and others will notice a bounce in our step. Our fears are lessened like in our youth, and the momentum builds to accomplish our hopes and dreams. You begin to gain confidence and get your “mojo” back.
Aspirations take a lifetime to accomplish, and you will go through many stages. Don’t let your dreams diminish. Let’s explore, dream, and go after what it is you’re meant to do in this world. Are you ready? Let’s talk.
If you know someone who seems to be stuck right now, please share this article with them, extend a helping hand, or help them take the next step to get their “mojo” back. They’ll be glad you did.